Nonverbal Cues that Speak Volumes

Scott Mason
Essay #27 May/June 2025

The expression “show, don’t tell” is a commonplace in most poetry circles, nowhere more so than in haiku and senryū. And for good reason. Telling generally takes time, and these short poetic forms clearly don’t afford that luxury. But more importantly, instead of achieving persuasion or evoking sympathy, poetry that “tells” often invites argumentation (few didactic poems win over our minds, much less our hearts) and thereby stands in the way of creating a genuine connection with the reader. Better to show or to suggest and, in so doing, to invite a sort of open collaboration, e.g., the aptly celebrated haiku “co-creation” between poet and reader. Ultimate effectiveness in haiku and senryū, as in much else, is a matter of touch dancing rather than arm wrestling.

There are plenty of ways to suggest rather than to tell. One of the best is to invoke nonverbal cues—as at the end of the prior paragraph’s last sentence. These may include not just physical movements or actions but also common gestures and even facial expressions. There’s some logic in this: after all, direct telling through language entails words, which, for all their virtues, are abstractions; on the other hand, nonverbal cues, even when summoned through language, are one level closer to sensed reality. Put somewhat differently, nonverbal cues can offer haiku and senryū poets more direct access to their readers’ experiences, emotions and hearts.

Some of my favorite short form poems employ such cues. So here I’d like to share just a few of them in a brief whirlwind survey to suggest the extent of their collective emotional bandwidth.

Let me begin with an anomaly: not all nonverbal cues need to emanate from humans or even sentient beings to instill a feeling.

    Winter burial:
    a stone angel points his hand
    at an empty sky
        – Eric Amann

                        the puppet
                        leaning from his booth
                        blinks at the rain
                            Chuck Brickley

    return migration
    the scarecrow
    open-armed
        – Lyle Rumpel

One of my own poems might apply here.

                men’s store —
                thoughtful poses from those
                without heads

Nonverbal cues are sometimes offered up by their human protagonists with full deliberation, tapping into our sense of shared understanding or empathy.

                        Farm country back road:
                        just like them i lift one finger
                        from the steering wheel
                            Tom Clausen

    falling leaves …
    we exchange
    the gesture to call
        – Aparna Pathak

                        saying too much
                        the deaf girl
                        hides her hands
                            Matthew Louvière

They can also highlight the featured individual’s sense of personal identity.

    daffodils …
    a little girl practicing
    her princess wave
        – Julie Cousineau

                        On the bus
                        the teenager pulls out a mirror
                        and adjusts her pout
                            George Swede

    the aging beauty
    having her knee x-rayed
    points her toe
        – Carol Montgomery

A particular action or other nonverbal cue can take on special meaning and (occasionally humorous) effect based on an individual’s already-established identity.

                        Weight lifter
                        slowly lifting
                        the teacup
                            Garry Gay

    war veteran …
    lobbing grain
    at his hens
        – Cynthia Rowe

                        solicitation
                        the wildlife activist
                        flashes her teeth
                            Tom Painting

The context provided by a special occasion can also render a nonverbal activity amusing, ironic, poignant or in some other way moving.

    Oscar night
    adjusting the cuffs
    of my pajamas
        – John Stevenson

                        Valentine’s Day —
                        a cyclist signals
                        with a long-stemmed rose
                            Robert Gilliland

    nine-month belly —
    she slowly unwraps
    the heirloom crèche
        – D. Claire Gallagher

Nonverbal cues might evoke wonder or mystery, in all their manifestations.

                        first snow
                        the baby’s fingers
                        close around nothing
                            Kay Grimes

    baton raised …
    a moth spirals
    into the silence
        – Christopher Herold

                        bedside vigil —
                        she clasps a hand
                        I do not see
                            Elizabeth Howard

They can also convey or amplify the array of emotions experienced by the parties to romantic relationships — from desire …

    prom day —
    on my daughter’s waist
    a boy’s hand
        – Lucy Lu

                        candlelight dinner —
                        his finger slowly circles
                        the rim of his glass
                            Lee Gurga

    winking
    the bride promises
    to obey
        – D. Claire Gallagher

… to dissipation …

                        pledging eternal love
                        she checks her watch
                            Maurice Tasnier

    channel dispute
    she aims the clicker
    at me
        – Dee Evetts

                        shifting clouds
                        I twist
                        my wedding ring
                            Pamela Miller Ness

… to dissolution …

    Discussing divorce
    he strokes
    the table cloth
        – Alexis Rotella

                        custody hearing
                        seeing his arms cross
                        I uncross mine
                            Roberta Beary

    divorce papers
    she carefully snips
    a loose thread
        – Ferris Gilli

When it comes to sincerity, a keenly observed and deftly reported nonverbal cue might suggest anything from its absence to its presence to something in between.

                        new employee
                           everyone smiling
                           once
                            David C. Ward

    the bartender
    bends to her story
    winter night
        – Glenn G. Coats

                        in passing
                        to another waitress
                        her real smile
                            Michael Ketchek

The aesthetic sense of sabi can perhaps be best conveyed through nonverbal means.

    weathered barn
    the farmer’s wife
    studies her hands
        – Barb Behrendt

                        hands in prayer
                        the carpenter has one
                        shorter finger
                            Sue Stanford

    touching the ashes of my father
        – Bob Boldman

The same might be said for the nonverbal ways people respond to adverse circumstances.

                        no one calls
                        she gently dusts
                        her porcelain rabbit
                            Elena Naskova

    winter waves
    she folds and unfolds
    her layoff notice
        – Linda Robeck

                        as she talks of aging —
                        smoothing the creases
                        in her grocery bag
                            Robert Scotellaro

Ultimately, nonverbal cues might suggest ways we can make some accommodation to whatever challenges, small or large, that life poses.

    she turns the child
    to brush her hair
    with the wind
        – Anita Virgil

                        my palsied mother,
                        pressing my forehead on hers
                        this Ash Wednesday
                            Nicholas Virgilio

    bedridden
    waltzing
    with her hands
        – Diane Tomczak

How effectively the right nonverbal cue can speak to missed or uncertain connections.

                        reunion:
                        a pause
                        before the hug
                            Ruth Yarrow

    autumn dusk
    I wave to a girl
    waving to someone else
        – Dietmar Tauchner

                        Missing a kick
                         at the icebox door
                        It closed anyway.
                            Jack Kerouac

But nonverbal cues can also underscore unequivocally positive moments of engagement.

    never missing
    the two-year-old catches rain
    with both hands
        – Gary Hotham

                        blackbird
                        she describes its flight
                        with her eyebrows
                            Steven Clarkson

    swallows at dusk
    the way her hands
    propel the story
        – Glenn G. Coats

Finally, finality. The right nonverbal cue can perfectly punctuate any concluding moment … so herewith, a grand finale.

                        spring afternoon:
                        the barber spins me around
                        towards the mirror
                            Mark Dillon

    setting sun
    the old stockman
    coils his whip
        – Gavin Austin

                        with a flourish
                        the waitress leaves behind
                        rearranged smears
                            Dee Evetts

    done
    the shoeshine boy
    snaps his rag
        – Alan Pizzarelli

                        New Year’s Eve —
                        the harpist’s hands
                        still the strings
                            Peggy Willis Lyles

The skillful use of nonverbal cues can offer the haiku or senryū poet a highly effective way to not just suggest a moment’s experience but to embody and reenact it. Readers and listeners will gladly lean in.